Fck Them Words ‼️

In this episode, we break down the weight of other people’s opinions, labels, and projections and how they stick to your identity when you let them. We talk about how words can shape your self-perception, why they hit so deeply, and how to stop internalizing things that were never yours to carry.

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Welcome back to the main character mindset. If you're new here, welcome. Honey, just like I said last episode, my little episodes and slowed up because I was, I was, I was, I was, sis was going through some shit. Okay? I was going through some shit. But I'm back. I'm back. So basically, what I'm learning, okay, because I had to step back and all the shit that I was talking to y'all about, I had to put that shit in motion. As far as in like see what people's true intentions are in my life. I had to do, I had to be an observer in my own life, baby. So I couldn't, I couldn't give y'all instruction because I was I was too busy taking my own advice, okay? But I'm about, you know, I'm about to come back and tell y'all what the fuck I learned. I'm learning that these niggas have mommy issues, and we fuck up by catering to that deficiency that these men have, okay? And when I say deficiency, I mean deficiency on love, compassion. You feel what I'm saying? And we try to pick them up. No, fuck all that. Start treating these niggas like they mama do, okay? Because that's the only form of love that he knows. Everything else is a fucking riddle to him, okay? Treat that nigga. I'ma say it for the ones in the back. Treat that nigga like his mama did, okay? Because at the end of the day, you only breaking yourself the fuck down, trying to convince a motherfucker that you love him. Fuck all that, bitch. We ain't doing that, okay? We not doing that. Yes, I came back today on my bullshit because I'm so fucking tired of these fucking grown ass little boys. Giving our good women hell, bro. And it's not nobody's fault. Like, okay, granted, most of us have daddy issues, okay? And we grow up to act just like the motherfucker, okay? Because I was one of them. I was my daddy's fucking seed, all right? But there's a time in life where you have to buckle down and become a grown-ass woman, bro. Because you can't use that as a fucking crutch your whole life, okay? We're not doing it. We're not making excuses for ourselves anymore. And the more excuses that you make is the more manipulation tactics that you're subjected to. Because I'm learning that manipulation starts small and then it gets bigger to the point that you're not doing your hair anymore. Okay. Because these niggas are insecure within themselves, then they try to make you insecure. It don't matter if you don't feel like that bitch today, you that bitch always, okay? And you're gonna head up, chest out, and you're always gonna have that, that, that, that, that. And you always keep that shit in the back of your motherfucking head. When a nigga tells you, Oh, I don't like your hair today, bitch, I don't like your haircut. Period. Period. If you like it, you wear it. Don't let no motherfucking nigga, that's validation. You don't need no nigga to validate you. Don't, don't, don't allow these bitch ass niggas. How the fuck is you gonna allow a nigga that look like Franklin to judge you? To critique you. Bitch built like a bald egg, and you gonna let them critique you? What? Come on, sis. Come on, sis. We gotta snap back into reality. Listen, I'm not here to judge you, because I was once that motherfucker that got judged by a bitch that was built like Mike Wazowski, okay? But at the same time, after all them judgments, and you look in the mirror, okay, on your on your worst day, bitch. Look in the mirror and you look yourself in the face and you say, I'm still that bitch. And is and always will be. Because it's not about it, it's it's it's you you a nigga a wanna bad bitch and then try to humble her, okay? And don't allow no nigga to humble you, baby. Don't, don't, and I'm only speaking from from reflection, boo. Because I used to allow niggas to tell me that I was ugly. Ugly wear. Ugly wear. And I had to I had to realize the projection that they were putting on me. Because every insult is a fucking projection. That's not how they feel about you, it's how they feel about themselves. Okay? And you'd return that shit back to Cinder, and you look a bitch dead in their face and say, uh, that's your opinion, bitch. And I'm not entitled to give a fuck. All right? Because them fucks that they want you to give, give them to somebody the fuck else. Respectfully. Give them the fuck to somebody else. All right, because this year and the years on, we ain't giving a fuck what nobody got to say. And that's something that I had to work on because I was always so keen on. That's why, like, I ain't been podcasting, because everybody be like, oh, well, you need to change your voice and become a little bit softer. No, because I'm supposed to reach who I'm supposed to reach. I'm not supposed to be accepted. I'm supposed to be effective. Okay. Effective as fuck. And it's like, people don't understand the the the fears that I had starting this podcast. You feel what I'm saying? The fear of being seen, the fear of being heard, but not knowing that my voice and my story is what is motivating other people. You feel what I'm saying? I don't know if this, you feel what I'm saying, is gonna reach somebody, but like, you know what? You damn right. Yeah, exactly, bitch. I'm right. I'm right. You feel me? And these are my experiences. Oh, what the fuck I went through with these nut ass niggas. Okay? Because bitch, at one point in time I was a motherfucking squirrel cracking the nut. Okay? And I'm not scared to say that shit. Like, bro, when I tell you, like, I came too far, I came so far, I did. And like people be having it fucked up because on social media, you supposed to look like this, you supposed to look like that, bitch. Shh, look like you. Because that's the difference between fake ass shit and authenticity. Okay. Authenticity, baby, is in you. That fake shit be on ya. Dust your motherfucking shoulders off and keep it the fuck pushing. It's easier said than done. But that's why we gotta love ourselves first. Okay? We gotta love ourselves first, because if we don't love ourselves, bro, then what the fuck is we doing? We just allowing the motherfucker to treat us like a doormat. And we're not. And we're not, bitch. You feel what I'm saying? Cause a motherfucker's gonna show you a thousand times how they feel about you. It's only about you if you're gonna look at them, if you're gonna sit back and observe, baby. Cause the motherfucker got one time. I used to be that person I used to give all the chances in the world because I love you. Bitch, love ain't never love nobody. It didn't. It did not. So if this shit reached you, it was for a purpose. You need to hear this. Stop allowing punk ass to judge you. You feel what I'm saying? Everybody be so consumed about this social motherfucking media that they forget about real actual fucking life. They really do. Motherfuckers wanna talk about healing. Healing. Healing? You wanna talk about some fucking healing? You ain't never looked yourself in the motherfucking mirror and just bust out in tears and laugh at the same time. Because you're feeling so many fucking emotions at one time. Yeah, that was me two nights ago. Cause I'm fucking human. I'm not gonna give you no advice that I don't follow. I'm not no hypocrite. I'm not. And that's a start. Because everybody be wanting to be fake to put on a fucking image. We ain't putting on no fucking image. It's either you take me as I am or you don't take me at all, bitch. Cause I'm be who I am at the end of the motherfucking day, because that bitch is going to end. Do you understand what I'm saying to you? These niggas be trying to control. I'ma let y'all in a little secret. Niggas be trying to control you because they have no control in their life. Okay? They try to control you. So they weaponize your love. If you don't take that shit the fuck back, take that shit the fuck back. And treat that nigga like his motherfucking mother would. On me. That's on me. I wouldn't tell you no shit that I wouldn't do. That I'm not doing. Because in order for you to get in, you have to show up. And if you don't show up for me, bitch, you're gonna get your mommy. Oh, that's a bar. You don't show up for me, you're gonna get your mommy. That means ignoring a nigga. Just because and it's and it's and it's nervous system regulation, bro. Because it's easy, it's easier said than fucking done. It is. It's easier said than fucking done. When you look at that phone and that phone ring, you be like, ooh, my baby calling. Uh-uh. When you know that your baby ain't shit, you know he ain't shit. Oh baby, you know he ain't shit. But you still answer that phone anyway. Nervous system regulation. Nervous system regulation. And that's what we as females we need. Because these niggas uh take advantage of your soft spot that you have for them. That's why you don't make soft spots no more. Allow that nigga to create a motherfucking soft spot for you. Okay? Fuck that, bitch. We're embracing our villain eras this year. Especially for the ones that continuously get hurt. Bitch, I'm not telling you to be cold. No. I'm telling you to have your boundaries and use your fucking feelings effectively on me. Because in order for the cycle to stop, you gotta change it. You have to sit there and observe a bitch patterns. I'm not talking about choices, bitch. I'm talking about patterns. I'm talking about how that nigga act when you when when you when you out too long. How the how the fuck that nigga act when you get dressed, how that nigga act when when when when when he calls your phone and he blowing your shit up because he wants to answer. Bitch, that's not love, that's control. Okay? You don't let no no soggy, no soggy, saggy, titty ass nigga sit in your face and tell you what the fuck you need to do as a grown ass motherfucker. Do you understand what I'm saying to you? 80-20 don't work around here, bitch. It's either you give me 100% or we ain't have nothing at all. Stop falling in love with how a motherfucker, what a motherfucker says versus what the fuck they do. Just speak louder than words, okay? If the motherfucker ain't acting on it and he's selling you a motherfucking dream, bitch, identify the dream and keep it the fuck pushing. Okay? He wanna call your phone with that made up ass shit, bitch. Press the motherfucking red buttons, okay? Because we ain't got time for that shit this year. We ain't got time for that shit this year or no other motherfucking year. It stops right now. So I hopped on here to give y'all a little motivation speech of what the fuck I've been through. And I hope that it helps somebody on the way. You feel me? Peace, love, and hair grease main characters. I love all of you.